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Last Updated November 2024

The COMPOSURE PROGRAM

Rather than do a fancy landing page, I put everything together on this un-fancy page.

CHARLIE McARTHUR

From the desk of Charles McArthur.

Gold Coast, Queensland, Australia

Dear Friends,

Next month, In December, I’m getting some great guys together to show them exactly how to keep their composure when everything going on around them would normally be a reason to lose it.

I'm going to help them change from being a reactor to being a responder who thinks before he acts. They will also be learning healthy, useful ways to think and gain a full understanding of the most important part of communication, which is rapport. For this group of guys, 2024 will go down as a transformational year in their lives.

We've called this The COMPOSURE PROGRAM, because that's our only focus here.

Most men are much closer to having composure than they realise. And with most men, if you haven't experienced composure in your life, it is hard to imagine how close it may be and what it actually feels like.

We’ll work on getting you to be a cool, calm and collected man, provide lots of content that will assist you in maintaining your mental health and in particular your self-worth and self-respect. We will also provide new insights into good communication and how to be a better communicator. We will achieve all this within 10-12 weeks of your enrolment. We'll give you everything you need to make that happen, and nothing you don't.

Composure and being a better version of yourself is the name of the game.

What we’ll work on: The 3 Problems to Solve

First, lets reprogram your behaviour and move from Hot Head to COOL, CALM and COLLECTED

We're going to solve the 3 biggest problems that stop guys from maintaining your composure: History of Anger, Stinking Thinking, and not being able to express themselves in a healthy way.

First, let's remove any hot-headed behaviour. Lets look at the bottom side of the triangle. Regardless of whether you picked up anger growing up in a dysfunctional family or your life generally has resulted in having a short fuse, we need to remove the unconscious belief that getting angry is an acceptable form of communication. We need you to believe that you are a cool, calm and collected man.

1. We'll start with expectations. — As most upsets come as a result of unmet expectations, we have you examine your own expectations because often people get angry because their expectations are unrealistic. In this lesson we also provide you with two effective diffusers that will immediately bring your emotions back into check.

2. Next will have you examine your beliefs about anger and classify them into two categories of limiting and enabling beliefs. The limiting beliefs need to be disposed of and this is where the real work begins. I provide an exercise from Conscious Self Hypnosis to achieve this is about a week.

3. Next, I will get you started on The 5 Second Method. This exercise takes place over a period of about 10 days. It is a simple project but not an easy one. For 10 days, I ask you to wait and pause for 5 seconds, before you speak to anybody. What this does is that it programs your mind to stop and think before you speak. By doing this for 10 days, eventually you will find yourself stopping and pausing for 5 seconds without even thinking about it. It means stopping and pausing has become second nature to you. This is really where you change from being a reactor to being a responder.

The result of the first stage of the composure program is that by this point, we will definitely be feeling more control of our emotions. You will believe you have turned the corner and turned your back on the angry life that has caused you so much trouble.

The second problem is moving Stinking Thinking to WORLD CLASS THINKING

As a human being, we can break our communication into two distinct areas. We can have communication with the outside world and communication we have with our internal self. If communication to yourself about yourself is angry, bitter and negative, it reflects in your outside behaviour.

Stinking thinking can take a few different forms and result in the process of overthinking. Stinking thinking starts with your own negative internal dialogue. Whatever you say about yourself to yourself will be the program that your brain will run. The mind-body loop is an essential piece of the puzzle as knowledge of this concept allows you to take greater control over your nervous system. This is important because it is your nervous system that is physically affected during any anger outburst. The skill of reframing and the ability to see things in a positive light will be a skill for life and to keep your mental faculties healthy.

4. First, we'll help you clean up your own negative internal self-talk. Natative internal dialogue is usually habitual and can be easily influenced. We provide tools that bring to your awareness when you do this.

5. We'll teach you about the mind-loop concept from the field of NLP. We show you how to use this concept to your advantage to quickly change your internal state. Understanding of this concept with practice will give you the ability to self-motivate as you learn to drive and control your nervous system as it is your nervous system and your unconscious mind that is responsible for outbursts of anger.

6. Finally, we'll teach you the life skill of reframing. Having the ability to see things from a positive perspective, you are then consciously changing the way you record your internal life history. Reframing allows you to contectualize meaning from the events that happen in your life in a way that is useful. This one skill is worth the cost of the entire program.

By this point, you have taken control of your physical reactions to things that you experience in part 1. In part two, you are now thinking in ways that act as a back up as it sets up your thinking to now allow anger to occur.

The third problem we solve is the lack of

SKILLS in COMMUNICATION

The 3rd and final problem is trouble expressing yourself. The solution to this problem is developing some key skills in communication. What do I mean when I say skills in communication, right? I mean, you can talk to people in English, right? You can understand what people say when they talk. How much better can you get at communication? What a great question!

Maybe you're thinking that acquiring SKILLS IN COMMUNICATION means building on those skills you already possess. You may be thinking it means expanding your vocabulary in order to sound more sophisticated. You may think SKILLS IN COMMUNICATION means getting better at email, voice messages and text messaging. In fact, it's none of these things.

You may care to consider how I like to think about Skills in Communication.

SKILLS IN COMMUNICATION means reducing or removing or minimising any aspect of your communication that pulls your effectiveness down from 100%. Effectiveness scores typically sit around the 65-70% mark for most people. The best communicators in the world sit just over 90% so there are plenty of skills to acquire to improve this score and have more people understand what you mean more of the time. Would that be useful? Of course!

7. First up, we gain some understanding about what rapport is. For it is the fundamental skill that will allow your communication skills to continually improve over time. Without an understanding of rapport, your level of improvement in this area of your life will be limited. An understanding of rapport will help you to know when to even attempt communicating.

8. Then, we will consider tone and flexibility. Once we have an understanding and some skills in rapport, we apply that knowledge to your tone of voice used to put your message out into the world and your flexibility as to how many variations of that you have available at your disposal. How many times have yiu heard somebody say, its bit what you said, its how you said it. Some words carry their own expected tone. When you hear or read the word "relaxation" you probably don't hear that word in your head with sharp piercing sound at volume 10.

9. Finally, we'll help you to avoid making the wrong assumptions. In life we need to assume many things. If I go and do my grocery shopping at 10am, I assume the supermarket will be open. I assume their connection to the banking system will allow me to pay on card. Assuming things to be true is something we have to do in life. However, to avoid conflict with human communication, we need to be very aware of the difference between what we notice and the meaning we give to what we notice. One you do with your senses and one you do with your imagination. Knowing this difference will unplug andf anger from your life.

This is how to achieve sustained composure and remove anger from your life.

Any one of these things can move the needle immediately for you and my experience is that ONE of these is going to resonate with you and stand out as the BIG opportunity for you specifically... So we'll be able to spend more time on that one with you.

Now...if I were you...

I'd imagine you've got a bunch of questions.

What kind of results can I expect?

Here are just a few of the reviews that people in my program have left.

"9 months ago I would have been so angry, going off my head and been yelling abuse at everyone around me. Today I remained fairly calm, and said what needed to be said without going overboard.

I cannot thank Charlie Mcarthur enough for changing my thinking, teaching me how to remain calm in a situation that before talking to Charlie about composure would have seen me walking out the gate as I have done so many times before. Thankyou Charlie"

"If you are serious about changing your thinking for the better, get onboard. Charlie really knows his stuff.Don’t let your thought patterns ruin your life."

"Can't recommend Charlie enough for fellas going through tough times when you are just in your own head. He provides ways to tweak your thinking to be able to deal positively with the situation, while maintaining your self respect. Thanks Charlie!"

Where and When?

We are kicking off now !

I'll add you to a private Facebook group with me and a full-time coach.

We will be in there daily to support you for the next 10-12 weeks.

We'll give you access to a step-by-step system.

In addition, every week for the next 10-12 weeks, we'll jump on a live group call together to get you the help you need.

How does it work?

We only want to work with people who can implement, test and report back on the results.

I'm taking people today and I'm inviting YOU to join the crew.

This isn't a course where you need to find loads of time in your busy schedule and watch endless generic videos. It will be bite-sized chunks you can knock out in a few minutes a day.

During our time together, we hang together in a private group, to talk about it and brainstorm specific strategies for YOUR situation so you can put it to action and report on your results.

I really want to create some great case studies from this so me and the team will be spending time with you to make sure we maximise your results.

How much time do I need?

First, you’ll want to make sure to put the weekly calls on your calendar. (If you can’t make it live, no problem. You can watch the recordings and get support in the Facebook group.)

Then, I recommend you allot at least 2-3 hours a week for study and implementation.

We're going to be working closely together, but it isn’t going to be drawn out.

Groups thrive on contribution. When you are getting wins, we need you to share the success so others can learn from you.

Deal?

What is the investment?

If you’re already tried to remove anger from your life, you will know that should this character trait not be addressed fully, it will eventually cost you a FORTUNE on your own terms.

With that said...

If you join us, your investment in the COMPOSURE Program has installment options that makes it ridiculously easy to get started.

A$100 now, then 5 payments of A$100 every week.

...Most of my students start with a A$200 deposit and then make 2 further payments of $200/month.

If this is something you know you want and have the available funds, you can save $100 with a deposit of $500 and have everything paid for.

Is there a guarantee?

Any time you invest time and money in working with a coach, there’s a risk. Right? What if it doesn’t work? What if it’s not as good as he said? What if Charlie's an exaggerating liar?

So let’s look at the best and worst case scenarios:

Best Case: over the next 2 months, you learn how to maintain your composure. The things that used to annoy you and piss you off don't have the same impact they used to. All the time you used to spend overthinking goes back into your available time to do productive things. You are now telling yourself things that provide you with self-belief and-with that self-belief, you notice a big improvement in your self-worth. You are using the skills you have learned about rapport and all the people with whom you have relationships are noticing a less stressed, happier you. When a potential upset happens, you automatically feel cool, calm and collected, and you remind yourself how you are not surprised. Your reframe skills are so sharp that you automatically see the potential upset was actually a good thing. You take the blessings and lessons from each experience, and you start living and feeling more fulfilled and happy than you ever have.

That’s the best case.

But what about the worst case?

Worst case: maybe it doesn’t work. Maybe you’re a few weeks in, and you decide it’s not for you. Or the content isn't quite right, or maybe you jumped too soon, or you decide that my Australian accent gets annoying...

In which case, anytime in the first 30 days, just let me know, and I’ll refund you 100% of what you’ve paid. No questions asked.

You get to keep all the materials we've covered. You'll be smarter, and still have the skill sets... But you won't have to pay for it at all.

So that way there's no risk of giving it a go and get started, is there?

So YES, there is a 30-day, no questions asked, 100% money back guarantee.

How do I get a spot?

You don't need to send me any money now.

If you've read the questions above and meet the requirements, just reply back...

"I'M IN"

Then I'll get you set up.

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